Let's talk about periods.
Not the punctuation at the end of a sentence.
Not the measurement of time.
Not the demand for the end of a conversation.
In fact, I want to bring up a generally taboo conversation.
A whole new, glorious phase of my life started when I started tracking the natural cycle of my body.
I discovered energy loops.
I saw patterns.
I stepped into flow.
I leaned into my emotions.
I released my grip on control.
I fucking rested when I needed to!!!
I softened up.
I practiced trust and surrender.
》I let myself be pleased and satisfied《
》I opened up to being surprised and delighted《
By divine timing
By signs and symbols
By my intuition
By perfect opportunities
By ideal situations
》I allowed myself to revel in pleasure and satisfaction《
With my progress
With my timeline
With my past, present, and future
All from understanding my flow, yo.
The moment I embodied WOMAN, my fears fell off as easily as my clothes.
Realizing that this vessel, specifically this womb, is an incubator of creative energy, I began to harness it's divine power.
Understanding that water represents woman, had me feeling fluid.
As soon as I learned the different phases of my cycle, I felt what true self care is.
I began to talk to my body more.
I started to listen more carefully.
She knows exactly what she needs and I can also be the one to provide it.
Our bodies, both men and women, are mystical machines!!!!
They are fascinating!
They adapt AUTOMATICALLY to survive and thrive.
Women, honoring your womanhood will unlock a portal into a realm that awaits you with open, loving energy.
The sooner you do, the sooner you realize that you are your number one resource.
Caring for yourself fully is THE SINGLE MOST important task you have.
EVERYTHING else can come (comfortably) second.
Men, the sooner you acknowledge accept and honor the fact that a woman has a menstrual cycle, the sooner the closer you are to your dream woman!
The sooner you men accept that you too have energetic cycles, you can further unlock your own potential.
We are rhythmic beings.
Honor the flow as you go to watch you life unfold.
For guidance in the growth, graze over to abigailgazda.com and grant yourself some grace and gratitude.
For the whole year of 2017, I hosted Monday Morning Meditation on Facebook.
Update: I recently just uploaded them all to my YouTube channel if you feel like diving into some archives!
Monday Morning was one of my favorite times of the week to join you beautiful people.
I loved spending a mindful moment clearing our hearts to create a great week ahead.
I took a break from MMM to shift my focus to completing a handful of projects.
I have missed it great the last two years.
I have wrestled with bringing it back into action multiple times. What I have missed is going live with you to share and generate greatness.
Ending MMM is one of those many life lessons about trading the good for the great.
While I looooved MMM dearly, doesn't rank high on the priority list in creating the biggest picture right now.
Letting go of Monday Morning Meditation has created space to bring you a natural and new evolution of Hearts Unleashed!
***What is something in your own life that is blocking progress or forward momentum?
***What is taking up space in your life, that if let go of, would create refreshed head and heart space for something new??
***What are You hanging onto that is actually holding YOU back??
For me, there is something magical about intentionally creating positive and powerful energy early on Mondays that puts a little extra pep in my step.
Based on the hundreds that have shown up for MMM, I am assuming that I am not alone.
That is why I created the "15 Min Fill Up" episodes on the Hearts Unleashed Podcast for bright and early Monday Mornings!
#15minfillups are quick lessons and inspiration from ontological coaching insights to invite you to rock your week and life!
Head to heartunleashed.com to pick your favorite way to listen to the Hearts Unleashed Podcast
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As always, live the life you love AND spread it!
The year and a half after divorce, I would call my sister, Emily, before my riskiest adventures of skydiving, snowboarding, backpacking, solo camping...my 1st match.com date...
I would send her my coordinates before a perceived risky situation and remind her "If I die, I died livin'!!!"
I haven't called her like that lately.
Not due to any shortage of adventures but because I have recalibrated my assessment of risk.
After more than a year and a half of flinging myself out of (quite literally) my physical comfort zone, I began finding myself out side of my emotional comfort zone.
Once I experienced myself capable of scaling the side of a mountain, I began to expand my range of emotions.
Once I realized dating in my thirties wouldn't kill me, I accepted that neither would expressing myself in an unabashed unapologetic way.
My physical adventures have supported my emotional journey.
Jumping off a cliff in the Grecian islands felt the same as telling my parents that I was afraid of disappointing them.
Once it was done, it was done.
Scuba diving 60 ft deep in the shores of Cabo was as breathtaking as calling my husband to talk about our divorce 3 years after the fact.
Standing atop mountains of Joshua Tree feels as monumental as standing on stage in front of a 1000 people telling them about my addiction to perfection and fear of rejection.
The phone calls to my sister joking about them potentially being "My Last One" were always equally playful and serious.
The risk of the adventure is both playful and serious.
At the end of my life, I will be as used up as I can be.
I will have given it my all.
I will have shed every attachment.
I will have released every fear, hope, insecurity, dream, doubt, and vision to a force much greater than me.
I have been doing this for years now.
Every risk, from defying gravity to defying my fears, I face head on knowing that I am nothing.
And nothing can stop me from living my fullest life.
By the end of it, I will be all used up having said yes to everything I wish to.
Yes to the adventure.
Yes to my relationships.
Yes to my desires.
Yes to me.
Yes to my dreams.
Yes to my potential.
Yes to my passion.
Yes to my flavor of genius.
I am here to make waves.
I am here to make a difference.
I am here to lead by example.
I am here.
I am here.
I am here.
I am here.
I am here.
I am astonished with myself.
My zone of genius is my ability to connect, hear, understand love and transmute energy.
I am an Alchemist.
I am able to restore and unleash others.
I am nothing and I am everything.
I am galactic.
I am grounded.
It's time you live Unleashed.
》SYMBOLISM & SIGNIFICANCE《
That is what you pay for when you buy a diamond.
That is what you strive for in school, sports, and work.
That is what you behave for in religion and law.
Being labeled valuable, important, and unique is where we focus our attention and worth.
Or at least it was....
Today, I sold one of the last *things* that energetically ties me to my divorce.
My Miss Independent Pendant
Short story: about a week after my husband asked me for a divorce, I took my wedding ring in to the same place I had it sized, soldered, and cleaned to have it appraised.
"Oh, sure honey! For insurance? I'll get the paperwork..." Janet said from behind the counter as she jumped into action.
"No...to sell." I responded somberly.
"Oh honey." She sighed. "I'll go get the jeweler...."
I was numb.
I just stood there waiting, feeling pretty empty inside.
Deflated...if you will....
"Oh honey...." I didn't know it then that that would be the first of about one million "Oh honey"s in the following year.
In that moment, as I stood alone in Marry Me Jewelry I didn't know much.
Everything I thought I knew just went away.
Anyway, the jeweler came out to kindly walk me over to his work station and just gently walk me through the process of selling back my wedding band.
You know, that circular piece of metal that signifies infinity?
That band with the bond that doesn't break.
With the diamond that symbolizes one true love?
The jeweler began writing down the features of the ring and pricing them individually.
Stone by stone.
Ounce by ounce.
"You see Ms. Abigail (I was a Ms. Again), as jewelers, we only buy pieces at wholesale. You'll never get retail back. You can put it on consignment for more and wait for someone to buy it or....are you going to cry?"
He had picked his eyes up off the prize long enough to see my hands holding my jaw closed.
"So you're telling me this is the most I'll ever be able to get for this ring?" I asked in disbelief.
To spare you the wallet wrenching details, those gems and metals were worth a quarter of what we paid for them.
My heart was feeling squeezed as I told the jeweler I would accept his offer.
I explained to him that I didn't plan on ever having to sell that particular piece of jewelry and that I didn't come for the money. I came to give it away because I couldn't look at it for another minute.
It was everything I ever really wanted and it represented more than I want to write about.
"All my jewelry is from my husband..." I announced as if I had suddenly discovered that.
I sat up straight as I put my hand to the Tiffany's Key To My Heart necklace I'd had for 4 years.
I took off my earrings and rings and more.
"I don't want money. I want new jewelry. My own jewelry." I sat up even taller.
"In that case, we will trade." The jeweler said with his own since of relief.
He offered me even more store credit than cash and proceeded to walk me around to pick out some new jewelry.
This solitude diamond was the first item I picked...for the solitude....
My Miss Independent Pendant.
I have worn it with so much pride over the years. In fact, I hardly ever took it off. If ever.
Two months ago, I had the urge to stop wearing all jewelry.
I was feeling so good in my skin that I was feeling weighed down by my jewelry.
Two weeks ago, I tried it all back on.
It has lost it's energy.
It felt like someone else's.
I feel like someone else.
I am someone else.
I went to sell it two weeks ago and had a VERY similar 'wholesale' conversation that I had about my wedding band.
When they quoted me a tenth of the retail price, it triggered me and I left with my pendant. How could something so sentimental be so cheap?
Hint: Because allowing others decide your value will always dictate your worth.
Today, I sold My Miss Independent Pendant because I do not need a single thing outside of me to represent me.
I do not have to dress me up or show me off.
I am brilliant the way that I am.
I shine like a diamond.
I keep it together like a precious metal.
I have many facets and I am cut to reflect light.
And this value never depreciates.
And neither does yours.
If you expect anything to validate your worth, you'll be searching forever.
If you hope for that one day you finally feel good enough, it'll never come.
If you wait for anything to complete you, life will be dreadfully disappointed.
Give it up, babe.
Let go of the things.
Release the grip on control.
Quit counting on titles and achievements.
They signify what?
They prove what?
They solve what?
They do, fill, cause, create what!?!?
Be the you that you know you are.
The more you do, the more you can.
The more you can, the more you will.
The world is waiting.
It's your Time To Shine.
Thanks Ms Independent Pendant...
You served me very well,
"I am no longer available for trade."
You guys. I. Have. Built. My. Business. On. Trade.
I am scared shitless about this shift and yet, I know it is past due.
For years.... YEEEEAAARSSS!
For my whole life really, I have functioned on the "you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours" honor system.
"I am not available for trade" I announced to my profitability partner in our month end call.
I said it in a moany, groany please-don't-make-me type of way but she wasn't making me do or say anything.
We were looking at the cost/benefit analysis of the barter system I have been building bits and pieces of my business on.
-Delegating work outside my zone of genius
-Keeping up pace and production without loneliness and exhaustion
-Getting things I cannot afford sooner
-Building relationships with clients/coworkers
-Building a team
-Getting a wide range of services in exchange for my services
-Getting to use my skills more often
-Exposing new people to my work
-Coaching others through their business breakthroughs
-Practicing receiving support
-Relinquishing the illusion of control or having to do everything in my biz
-Collaborations and cross promotions
-Making money. Cold, hard cashola
-The blockage of the natural money flow
-The urgency of finding cash elsewhere while trading services
-Wearing two (or more) hats with one person
-The awkward process of an uneven exchange
-The withholding of what needs to be said out fear of harming or ending the relationship
-The emotional involvement in business agreements
-The skewing of agreements, lines, worth, and work
-The vast difference in measurable deliverables and ensuring someone's (or my own) satisfaction
-Time and energy spent in the trade that could be used making, saving, and managing money
-Other income producing activities
-Shame or guilt in not affording to pay for certain things
-Not flexing patience in the manifestation of wants, desires, and needs
-Not making the desired progress in life and business from trade
-The combination of lack of income and used up time
-Creating a scarcity illusion of our most valuable resources: time, money, energy
-Negotiations and customizations to your product or services
-Compromising standards, boundaries, and conditions of satisfaction to save a quick buck
-Power leaks of multiple trades at once
Trading says I'm broke, your broke, let's rub these two rocks together and burn some shit!
Charging says I'm abundant, your abundant, let's highfive each other with our money and buy some shit!
It says, I know you are a capable human being to raise as much money as you need to afford whatever you want.
Expecting someone to pay you says I will stand for you as capable of raising capital to invest in whatever you care about most.
I will encourage you to put your money where your mouth is because I am doing the same for myself more everyday.
In the fall of 2018, I met my guardian angel of a bookkeeper and (you guessed it) traded her 8 weeks of coaching for 8 weeks of bookkeeping.
In those two months, she literally DOUBLED her client count and income and is RIGHT ON target to hit her 6 figure dream goal in 2019.
In my two months working with her, I tripled my rates and sold my two biggest packages ever and have been climbing in confidence and conscience ever since.
She has helped me shift my relationship to money from being dead ass scared to open my banking app to devouring money books and texting her epiphanies in the middle of the night.
She helped me cause a 377% increase in revenue and my first 2 quarters of 2019 in the black!
I always swore that numbers weren't my thing. I joke that I am no mathematician but focusing on my money has caused so much maturation within me.
Money used to trigger me.
Now, I play games with it.
I test theories.
I practice healthy habits.
It definitely still surfaces fears but now I face them with a competitive grin like, BRING IT ONNNNN.
In the spring, I asked my bookkeeper to start charging me for her services because I knew she deserved every penny she was saving me and making me.
Our work together is worth paying for.
The awareness, understanding, acceptance, and joy for the flow of money in our relationship makes me want more simplicity just like it.
She helps me, I pay her.
Simple. Easy. Done.
It equalizes the energy loops and feels so empowering to give and receive so freely.
I want more of that. All over my life.
"I am no longer available for trade" eeeeeeekk.
This is going to occur like breaking any other habit.
I am scared and jittery.
I am structuring new boundaries.
I have that cliff edge feeling like I am standing out there without any safety gear.
Every upgrade feels this way.
I have become pretty desensitized to discomfort. It's my new normal.
Did I mention that I built my whole business on trading?
It has never been SO obvious to me until now.
Over the course of this year, I have noticed how I use trading as a crutch to keep my projects hobbling along.
Coaching for consulting
Clarity work for energy work
Healing work for clerical work
Consulting for therapy or photography or editing or....you name it.
Bartering has gotten me a lot in the growth and development of my business.
It has revealed to me my truest support structures, friends, and energy suckers.
It has taught me a wealth of valuable information and practices to do and NOT to do.
Trading has made me one of the single most resourceful people I know.
I have taken a lot of pride in trading and fulfilling on my commitments.
It has certainly grown me into a savvy 'shopper' if you will.
But now is the time for this life altering shift. I can sense how it will be a clear 'before bartering and after bartering' transition in my lifetime.
"I am no longer available for trading."
It's something new that I am trying and I can ALWAYS go back. I can always trade but I know that cost and benefits list in my sleep.
I am ready to see what's available outside of the comfort zone of trading.
For now, if I share my work it will be a conscious decision to donate/volunteer my time and expertise.
What I give with my free content, I give from a FULL HEART with no expectation of a return.
What I sell, I sell with pride, poise, and clarity.
Offers I decline, I will say no with perspective and self assuredness.
What I ask for, I ask for knowing I am deserving and worthy.
What I buy, I take pleasure in handing over my well deserved money back into the current it came from.
Bear with me as I recalibrate and elevate. I will be sure to share the journey.
I am sure I will make a mess of it. And then I will probably cry. Then laugh. Then move on with my life smarter, wiser, and wealthier.
And always, living a life I love.
Can you relate to the cost/benefit analysis of trading?
What has bartering cost you in your long game?
What has it gained you?
Are you ready to give up trading your precious time for your accelerated progress?
Then you are ready to level up in life and my FREE digital course: 3 Keys to Moving the Needle in Your Life is the perfect place to start.
In this FREE mini-course, I take you through my three step system to leveling up with power and poise.
It's time to move the needle.
It's time for you to live Unleashed.
Everyone Starts Somewhere.
Always grateful for this day!
I remember it vividly.
STILL paying off debt!
But now, it's so much more about wealth and money management and I have the process itself to thank.
I have shifted many many times and always getting closer and closer to financial freedom!
Anyone else working on their money stuff!?!
I am in celebration, people!
In the last 8 weeks, I have paid off $5,600 of my debt!!! I am not even ashamed to admit that I HAVE debt!
I used to resent it and struggle with my self esteem because of it. I felt immature, irresponsible, and pretty hopeless. Overall, I felt trapped.
I have claimed to be committed to living debt-free for longer than I can say but I've never taken appropriate action to really create that life!
If I could do it over, I'd do it the same but I can certainly say I don't want to live my entire life in this pattern. It has felt like a vicious cycle of 'trying' to get ahead but never covering any ground.
In the last few months, when taking a look at my fullest life, it looks like creating abundance in such a way that I do not have to depend on credit to live happily. It looks like getting paid to be Me and Me being Me not draining my bank account.
It also looks like having memories rather than materials.
It looks like spending energy on adventures rather than spending dollars on the shiny things. There is a balance to this money dance but I have created an empowering relationship to money that has created a happier, lighter Me.
Now, I really get that I'm freakin amazing!
But, I cannot take full credit for the life I have now without acknowledging taking on the adventure of life coaching!
Without a life coach, there's a lot of character traits I would not have noticed were holding me back from my fullest life! When I graduated from college, I graduated right into the Rat Race and I was well on my way to 'numb and dumb.'
I could have just turned my caring off and trudged through life. My almost certain and predictable future was one of constantly trying to get by.
Now I choose to be myself and live a fulfilling life. Now, money, time, good energy, fun and abundance are a result of going for everything possible!
I am being Me.
I am doing Me.
I am creating a free, full life I love!!!
If your ready to get out of the rat race and recreate your relationship to money, visit abigailgazda.com to check out my courses!
One year ago, I had a baby. . .
Coming into the world at 19 min 22 seconds, my intro episode brought tears to my eyes and pride to my heart! .
I have kept this baby growing and thriving for a whole year! .
Sleepless nights and thousands of dollars later, we are 90 episodes in and THIS Friday, I am sharing how this last year of podcast parenthood has gone and what launching a podcast has taught me. .
My children might not cry, poop, and giggle, but it brings me so much joy to know my babies make other people smile.
It is such a pleasure to watch my baby bring light to the world.
My now one year old has reached thousands of people in 52 countries and I am so proud of her.
Hearts Unleashed is a personal and professional development podcast committed to empowering YOU to operate with full freedom, power, and self-expression in every area of life.
Spending time nurturing this podcast is never a waste. It's never a chore. It's never a question of whether or not I will keep raising her as my own.
In these audio files, I share my own heart as well as the hearts of other trailblazers. I birthed this baby to interview and celebrate those living their hearts unleashed in order to inspire those of you hungry to do so!
Entrepreneurship (and bravery in life) is much like jumping off a cliff and building your plane on the way down!
It is as scary as it is thrilling!
You will find most of this podcast is about that crazy free fall we all feel some times and you’ll get tips, tricks, and tools, for assembling YOUR aircraft so you can soar.
In this podcast, you will hear from men, women, and young people. You’ll hear from people from all industries, with different ideas, contributing to different causes or movements.
As you listen to my baby, my hope is that you hear that ONE thing from that ONE person that really flips the switch in your heart that inspires you to take action on your dreams.
Because here in the Hearts Unleashed Family, we are turning dreamers into doers.
Happy Birthday, Hearts Unleashed Podcast!
I am so proud of you.
Today, July 29, is the one year anniversary of the Hearts Unleashed Podcast!!!!!
This has been my all time FAVORITE project of my whole ass life!
WE HAVE HIT ONE YEAR!
We are hitting our 100th episode next month!
WE ARE JUST GETTING STARTED and I am swelling with love and pride for this process.
A MAJOR MAJOR THANK YOU for all of the support and love!
Thank you for tuning in!
Thank you for your feedback!
Thank you for investing your time and energy in what the Hearts Unleashed Podcast has available for your own transformation!
We at the Hearts Unleashed Podcast are so proud to provide you free resource and opportunity to grow through what you go through!
We are so proud to provide tools, products, and courses that serve you at EVERY stage of transformation!
Be sure to tune in today to celebrate with us by checking out the 3 Major Stages of Life and discover where you are in your growth process!
Since starting the podcast, I have made some major personal and professional progress!
As I say in many episodes, you get to grow through what you go through!
Always, set yourself up to yield a return on your work WHILE in the process and you will get the gift of realizing there is no such thing as a waste of time or lost opportunity.
In my own evolution as an ontological life coach, I have discovered and shared these 3 Major Stages of Life that we ALL go through! The study of ontology is "the study of the nature of being."
I study a condition WE ALL HAVE: the condition of being human.
We have fundamental survival instincts and patterns that charge our breakdowns and breakthroughs.
In my time as a coach, I have formulated tools, products, and courses to support ANYONE at ANY STAGE of their transformation!
This episode will give you a better idea of where you fall on the spectrum of evolution and where you are headed next!
I have focused on preaching and teaching Emotional Intelligence because I believe it is the key to our freedom.
It is the age old adage: I can give you a fish or I can teach you to fish.
I can make you feel better today, or I can provide you the tools to live a better life forever.
I am interested in your lasting happiness, joy, purpose, and self actualization.
Always have, always will be and it is up to you to join me in making the shift from dreaming to doing.
Thank you for being on this Hearts Unleashed journey with me.
Forever types of love to you.
Hear me out, friends.
It is usually 24-48 hours after an EPIC weekend, festival, vacation, or majorly awesome affair that a deep sadness creeps up.
This weekend was one of those weekends and that sadness crept up QUICK this morning.
All of a sudden, I felt heavy. My throat is tight. My chest feels weighed down and tears are just one deep breath away from become a snot-nosed sob.
It is post joy sadness that is very natural for us as humans. We get blissed out by joy and then dip into the scarcities of the silence.
In the silence, our ego tries to hijack us.
"What about this...!?!?!"
"What about that!?!?"
"You forgot to....!"
In the silence, we are present to the absence of the fun and games.
This is okay. This is natural.
I am sharing my experience and practices today because I know I am not the only one who experiences pain in what is really an overwhelming sense of Gratitude.
I just saw and hugged AS MANY PEOPLE as I could since last Thursday.
I was at the 25th Pierogi Fest!
It was my first Fest in 3 years.
I was in the parade with my family 'just like old times' and it brought me to tears.
I got so much quality time with quality people.
I saw friends I haven't seen in years.
I ate HELLA delicious food!
I did NOT get blackout drunk for the first Fest ever!
I finished the weekend having made more money than I spent!
My biz didn't miss a beat while I was enjoying my hometown.
I walked around my old stomping grounds filled with more hometown pride than I could ever articulate.
I made new tons of new friends!
I grew closer to my 'old' friends!
And sooooo much more!
This weekend in Whiting was over the top wonderful and today's sadness is a healthy sign of that.
And now, the streets are empty.
It's raining this Monday morning in Whiting and it is washing away all of the evidence of this amazing weekend.
I am sad it's over.
Most importantly, I am SO GRATEFUL that I had the experience.
I am grateful for my hometown.
My home grown upbringing.
I have so much Gratitude, it hurts.
It's days like this that my heart feels like it will burst.
My message to you today:
DO NOT MISTAKE PAIN WITH SUFFERING
Feel your feels and have yourself a snot-nosed cry when you need to.
Set yourself free by realizing how joyful you are in the chaos AND the silence.
Count your blessings.
Count your days.
Most of all, make them count.
Live the life you love.
It's safe babe.
You are loved and protected on levels you can't even comprehend.
You are guided and guarded in dimensions you cannot 'see'
You are supported and surrounded at all angles, my love.
It is safe to start being you.
It is safe to EXPLORE who you might be.
It is okay to not know.
And it is certainly alright to expand who you know yourself to be.
Whether you are clear about who you fully are or still in search, this is an invitation to release everything you KNOW you are not.
Someone else's version of success.
Status symbols that you don't really value.
Standards and expectations that make you cringe.
Part of knowing what you want is also knowing what you DON'T want.
And this is an invitation to let it all go.
Past based patterns.
Release them into the wild and emerge from what's left.
It's safe to start being you.