Ya ever have a day, week, month, year, or life in which you are facepalming on a constant basis?
I was trying reeeeally hard to juggle more than I could handle. I was battling feeling like a loser after divorce and super determined not to let it 'slow me down.'
I was working two jobs, moving apartments, taking a course, and transferring to a new job location....ya know....'cause of the divorce. The course I was taking was to develop as a life coach and entrepreneur and phase out of the 9-5 lifestyle.
So here I was, an epic failure, trying to call myself a life coach.
Cue the facepalming.
I was spread faaaaaar too thin.
I was over spending and undereating.
I was dating a rebound guy when I wasn't ready.
I felt over worked, under paid, and less than appreciated in my company.
I was taking an insane leap of faith on yet another new venture.
Aaaaaand all the while, I was trying to play it cool.
I smacked my palm to my forehead so many times that I just started keeping it there. For how many times I said to myself, "Oh yoy, Abigail! Get it together!" You'd think I would have been able to get it together.
I gotta admit. It took a while and a lot of facepalming....and eye rolling...and self pity for that matter.
I felt like a complete fraud. I was struggling with a story I had written about myself being a loser and reject. I was trying to overcome my struggle while denying that it was affecting me. After about three months of this the mess, instead of facepalming, I threw both hands in the air and said,
"ENOUGH! I am hurting! I am scared! I can't do this alone and I am done trying so hard to be okay!!!"
I finally asked for a hand!
I got into therapy to sort through my leftover hurt from divorce.
I had a life coach to start taking steps forward as a powerful woman instead of broken girl.
I found a recovery program in which I was able to relate to others with similar backgrounds.
I began the process of acceptance, healing, and letting go.
I evolved further as weeks and months went by. I began transforming into Woman. I stepped out of victim and into leader. I took responsibility for my life and how it is on a daily basis.
No more facepalming.
NOW, that doesn't mean it's perfect. It means I live on purpose.
I'm not out in the world living from doubt, fear, and regret.
You see, a facepalm moment for me was an outward self disapproval.
It was a moment of being disappointed in myself for 'being dumb' or missing foreseeing something.
There was a lot of judgement that I cast on myself during this phase of growth.
I had to get present to the victim that I was playing and the game I was participating in. The game I was playing was the "I'm a loser" game and let me tell ya, I was winning that game. Once I saw it for what it was, I was able to chose a different game.
I now play the "Sunshine and Rainbows" game. I am always playing for the life experience of Sunshine and Rainbows. In this world, I can have it all: life, career, relationship, connection, joy, play, adventure....all of it and more. I can create a full life. I can take bold swings and fail in the face of Sunshine and Rainbows and laugh it off as a fun attempt. There is wiggle room in this context because it doesn't have to actually 'go my way' or look perfect. Even in a swing-and-a-miss, I am still playing a bigger game. I am always playing for my biggest life. I am always swinging for the fences and if I strike out at-bat, I know that I have another chance in the next inning! This game is never over....until it's over.
In this game, I can handle anything! Talk with a potential client. Talk with a new guy. Talk with a new prospective collaboration. Talk with a new publisher. So on and so forth, from Sunshine and Rainbows, I am enjoying the experience as much as the results.
In this life, no facepalming.
No self hate.
No self doubt.
I find it absolutely hilarious because it is the opposite of what I say when talking to clients, groups, etc. "I am not selling Sunshine and Rainbows here because this work isn't easy...."
What I am creating in my work, what I am "selling," is your chance to take swings at Your fullest life. What I have found in my own process:
If your palm and face are tired of meeting, call me.
Let's have your head meet your heart.
Let's have You meet the highest and best version of You.
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