Client: Okay, but I have spent most of my life justifying by business and decisions. How do I not care about others opinions or judgments?
We all have this experience on some level at some point.
Short answer: Be willing to be misunderstood. Be willing to disappoint others.
It's really okay when others do not support or agree with your decisions, actions, desires, or lifestyle.
It's not their life.
They haven't walked your path.
They can't hear the whispers or your heart...sheit...you hardly can
When we finally decide to follow our heart and honor our truth, people might question it.
Simply put, those are not the ones to rely on for encouragement or support.
THAT DOES NOT mean we block them and move on.
It means we surround ourselves with a team that matches the frequency of the life we are living into and we proceed with the life we are creating.
Anyone who doubts us is just putting our own insecurities on loud speaker:
CAN I really do this?
IS this smart?
IS this safe?
HAVE I considered all the challenges?
WHAT IF I fail?
People's doubts and judgement are just something within us that is currently hidden from our view to identify within ourselves, heal, clear, bless, and release.
As far as that other person, bless them for their care, protective efforts, and love.
Thank them for the new insight into yourself.
Then move on.
Love them where they are and be okay if they don't understand your desires and actions.
This doesn't mean we cut them out. We probably love them. They are probably friends and family.
This just means we do the inner work of being okay with the discomfort of being misunderstood. It means being okay with the ideas of not meeting someone else's expectations of you. It means seeming to 'fall short' of some social norm.
I disappointed people when I left teaching.
I confused people when I left corporate.
I was warned about the inconsistencies of being self employed.
If I made other people's fears, concerns, or priorities more important than my vision, I wouldn't be where I am.
I would probably be doing something great, I am sure but nothing as rewarding as honoring my heart's calling in the face of resistance.
I would NOT be doing fulfilling work that I love, makes a huge difference, and pays more than I could imagine. I know this because I would have put others before myself in a way that I would be creating my life based on what others believed was good for me.
We can let our people love us without letting them run our lives, thoughts, and actions.
So I challenge you.
Who are you afraid of disappointing?
In what ways are you afraid of being misunderstood?
What judgment are you so afraid of?
Are you willing?
Are you willing to follow your heart and just let people not get it?
Here's a fun protip from the future.
They will get it in your winning season....but likely not a moment sooner.
It will take your own permission to proceed.