Fixing isn't serving anyone, including you.

"I'm a doer."
"I'm a fixer" 
"I'm an enabler"
"I am a problem solver"
*Whomp whomp whomp whoooomp*

#1 Rid yourself of verbal or mental self abuse, labeling, and limited beliefs. 
#2 Let's spend the rest of this time elevated above self proclaimed titles that place you in a space you don't want to be in. 
#3 Take on the idea that everything. is. perfect. 

From this new, profound space, now let's look at fixing.

You break your arm, you get it casted; you can fix what's broken.
In matters of the mind, heart, and soul, we do not have any one cast that can ensure our ability to recover, redefine, or shift they way we relate to an experience, memory, place, person or time. There's no band-aids that fit on your brain or stitches for the soul. There is no end-all-be-all resolution, yet we find ourselves trying to fix what's broken. As a result, we create that ever haunting illusion that it is ourself that is broken. However, it's quite the contrary my friends, we are perfect.  

Alright then, how do we fix this?!
Deep breath, people. I told you. You're perfect. Can you feel it yet? 
This may take a few more swings. 

When faced with challenging experiences, thoughts, people, jobs, etc. I challenge you to fight the urge to fix the issue and to just BE WITH IT! Lean in, feel it, FEEL IT ALL. What's there?

Instead of looking over, under, around, and behind the fire, look right through it. Walk right through it. Explore the parts that you have avoided. We know those times when it feels easier to avoid then be with. I am asking you to be with. See what's there and what you discover. 
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There may be sadness, anger, hurt, joy, confusion, laughter, longing, mystery, beauty and more. The longer and harder you look, the more you find. You know what's in that fire? YOU. All of you. The messy you. The person that you normally walk over, under, past, and around. The you that has been tucked away by the fixing. The YOU  that is bursting at the seams to break through. 
You will walk through and emerge out of the other side of the flames not "fixed" but ablaze! Enlightened by YOUR OWN awareness. Empowered by the better understanding of yourself and inspired to live out this new love for yourself. 

At this point, you still interested in fixing? 
Might I enroll you in living instead?
Living out loud. 

When you walk through that fire and see what's there, you will find the good with the bad. You will find the happy with the sad. You will find that if you want a full life of joy; sadness, anger, and happiness are all on the spectrum as well. Embracing all of it for anyone to see releases the sense of control in fixing ourselves. You get to show up without working so hard to be something that you are not. 

I invite you to know yourself. I invite you to own yourself. I invite you to share yourself with the world! There is no fixing in that. You are perfect and the world needs more of You! 

Live the life you love, 
Abigail.