I'm gunna run an idea past you.
In this day and age we have so many constant pressures from external sources about the ideal visions of success on all fronts; relationship, career, home, car, appearance, etc. If we get quiet and take a look at what we are missing in life, we tend to feel a void or gap. We don't look down this rabbit hole often because it tends to leave us feeling incomplete. This feeling can physically manifest as illness, anxiety, depression, and more.
I myself have been caught up in what I call "social media syndrome" a time or two. We allow ourselves to believe that there are only a few options of what success looks like and begin chasing things that we don't truly want. As time goes on, we hyper focus on what will make us feel complete when, in fact, those things can be temporary fixes to an unidentified issue: the void. We stuff the voids with whatever we believe will relieve the fear or pain of having a void. At all costs of avoiding this feeling, we are easily tempted to fill the gap with negative coping mechanisms or behaviors.
The idea I want to run past you is a pretty practical concept that "voids are vacuums."
A void is a place in which something is missing. By nature, when there is a gap, it will be filled. If we are not intentional, it can and will be filled with anything. In matters of the heart, what is usually missing is some flavor of Love.
If we are not consciously responsible for this, the vacuum will suck in whatever becomes available to it. Often times, we believe that our happiness lies outside of us. The internal conversation becomes "Once I have _____, then I will be happy and whole." We go on a crazed mission to attain what we believe will generate our ultimate happiness.
If we are missing Love and replacing it with something that numbs our ability to feel, we create just that. Numbness.
If we are missing Love and supplementing it with temporary fixes of attention/affection, we perpetuate the belief that Love is temporary or goes away easily.
If we are missing Love and fill that void with anything but more, new, fresh self love, we will always feel forced to keep up with filling in that void.
In any sense, if love is what you seek, consider that you can create it in the now without depending on anyone or anything to create it for you. What gets tricky is that we THINK filling the void from without works because the newness of a 'thing' creates an excitement that makes us feel like we solved the problem!
Have you ever noticed how that newness wears off? As we age, that pattern happens faster and faster until we are flat out chasing the next new thing to feel any sense of relief!
I am hear today to share with you how to let that void be filled from the inside, out. It is not until you listen from within to find out what is truly important to you will that gap seem to close up naturally. Letting your passions and purpose shine through and honoring what you feel called to do, be, and have will fill you up tremendously!
RED ALERT! This part requires you constructing your own definitions of happiness and success. This is the part where you surrender what society tells you success is. This is where you begin to create your life on your terms because when you give up what others tell you that you need, you can start to sense your own true desires and live them out.
When you get present to what YOU want, by default, you start to get present to what you've already got!!!
Gratitude is a form of love that cannot be stolen from you.
It cannot be tampered with.
True gratitude will stir up the true love that already exists within.
Filling a void with self love that you haven't embraced yet will leave you celebrating what's already in existence.
When you begin to own and acknowledge all the greatness that already exists, the lacking will fade. The need to stuff will shift. The desire to feel love will become satisfied in a way that has you fall deeper and deeper in love with YOU!♡ From there, you can begin to experience being pulled by your passions instead of pushed by the pressures of the world.
YOU are the source of your love.
YOU are the source of your life.
YOU are the One.
YOU have the say in the matters of your life.
YOU get to choose your definition of success.
YOU get to create your life as an expression of what is in your heart!
After you take a look at what you've been stuffing that void with, get grateful that you get to choose different-Right. NOW! If you realize that you are ready to stop stuffing and are not sure how, get appropriate support. If you don't know where to start, reach out here. One of my roles as a life coach is to shine light on paths that you may have a hard time seeing for yourself. There is no need to suffer isolated or alone and part of ending the stuffing is by admitting that it isn't really filling up your heart and soul.
There are so many healthy ways to live and thrive. By finding who you are, what you love, and how you want to live will give you a whole new lease on life. To take a look with a professional can transform the way it looks and feels to be living on purpose and with purpose. My invitation is to unleash your heart in such a way that you are no longer missing anything. You are creating, living, and celebrating. From this space, nothing is truly missing.