It's Mental Health Awareness Day and I want to take this opportunity to highlight what pretending is doing to yourself and your life.
You see, when you pretend to be something that you're not, your insides get confused.
Your mind, heart, gut, and head..
Every bit of your energy is something else and you're putting up a mask or a facade to cover it.
This isn't always tragic.
I'm not saying that everyone is super sad and suffering and we're all trying to cover it up. (𝘈𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩, 𝘐 𝘥𝘰 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘦 𝘢 𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘦.)
I also believe that we are trying to mask cover and hide the most brilliant parts of us as well!
Our intuition, our faith, our knowing, our desire to trust....
We hide these things and pretend like they are not there or we don't have them.
We hide feelings.
We hide victories.
We hide tragedy and triumph.
𝗪𝐞 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧 𝐡𝐢𝐝𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐨𝐫 𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of being forgotten.
Fear of being ridiculed, judged, or misunderstood.
𝐈𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐮𝐧𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐮𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐯𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐥 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐨𝐦, 𝐣𝐨𝐲, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐞𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧!
𝘈 𝘊𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘔𝘪𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘴 explains that "when you become willing to hide nothing, you will not only be willing to enter into communion but will also understand peace and joy."
𝗪𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐡𝐢𝐝𝐞, 𝐰𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐞𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞.
Hiding is pretending.
Avoiding is pretending.
Numbing is pretending.
Withholding is pretending.
No matter what it is you're pretending, 𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐈𝐓!
It's confusing and prevents trust both inward and outward!
If you feel alone, conflicted, struggling, misunderstood, unseen, or unheard, the first thing you can do for yourself, your loved ones, and your future is to stop pretending!
We want to know the real you.
The whole real you!
I promise you, the more you know, accept, and share that authentic version of you confidently, the world will accept it!
I 𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘺 know how easy it may be to just blend in or fit in as opposed to own every part of you.
However, the internal conflict, the tug of war, the unrest, the paranoia, the dis-ease, the mental illness you feel is caused by your pretending.
It's inflicted upon yourself by yourself.
Only you can set yourself free from it!
I personally 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘯𝘰𝘵 have done this for or by myself.
It took therapy.
It took life coaching.
It took personal development.
It took the support of professional structures to truly and safely look at myself in the mirror and learn to love myself.
I personally have been on a 3 year journey to do this and my life is ever evolving and ever becoming more abundant!
So much so, that I chose to create my vocation in mental health and emotional intelligence because it has absolutely set me free to live my very best life.
In turn, I get to guide others through their own process.
I can never say enough positive things to want to further influence you to explore your own mental health, emotional intelligence, and well being.
However, I have accepted it as my entire life's purpose to create authentic connection which creates hilarious joy!
That is my unique contribution in my time on this beautiful planet and I am enjoying it fully. I eagerly anticipate its continued unfolding.
I also know how much is available to you outside of the realm of mental illness.
If you need support...
If you don't know where to start...
If you're scared and hiding behind your facade, reach out.
I have still yet to find any magical words to pack the power behind this message!
𝐈 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐢𝐫𝐫𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐛𝐞𝐠𝐢𝐧 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐫𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞!
To anyone questioning that: know that you are not alone.
You are never alone.
I am you.
You are me.
We are we.
I love you. I am here for you.
Reach out if you don't know where to start.
If you feel afraid to open up still, start here