Talking About The Things That "Don't Matter"

I remember when I first started my life coach training program back in February 2016.

I remember the very slow, monotonous conversations about what was going on in the participants lives. We would sit around talking about what they were struggling with.

Sometimes it was things that seemed like they had nothing to do with our life coach training program.

At certain times, I would get frustrated because I wouldn't bring my own personal problems to my professional training program.

It was for a few reasons like being told in sports to leave your problems at the door.

I would also stay quiet out of fear that my own problems weren't important enough to share.

I didn't want to 'bother' other people with my problems the way I felt bothered by theirs.

I would get impatient when someone else was sharing and the lead trainers would keep the conversation going around that individual's concerns, questions, and resistance.

Sometimes I would think to myself "alright already! When are we going to get to be coach training? When are you going to teach us how to help that person fix their problems instead of just sit here and talk about them?!?"

It seriously took months of this frustration before it became my turn.

In a weekend about spirituality, I had a complete breakdown about my divorce.

This wasn't a share for coaching around how many clients I wanted or about how to do a sample session.
It was about my personal life.

It was about the way that I felt betrayed by God for being left by my husband.

I was able to identify a grudge I have held against God that I couldn't have recognized had I not been willing to share a very deep and personal problem in my professional coach training program.

It was then and only then after the exercise that I realized all of those slow, monotonous conversations about everyone's individual lives WAS in fact the coach training program.

We were learning how to sort ourselves out.

While we didn't always relate to each other; we didn't have the same backgrounds, we didn't have the same socioeconomic status, or career paths, we did have one thing in common: being very VERY human.

So in this crazy day and age, you may be seeing people share their hearts on social media and then judging "alright already, when are we gonna get on with the real stuff?!?"

I may ask you to consider this IS the real stuff.

Behind the screen, these are people's real lives sharing their real hearts.

A comment on a thread may be an opinion (you do not agree with). However, it comes from a beating heart and it's likely that beating heart has many problems of its own and also many triumphs of its own.

There are times that you will judge it.
There are times that you will judge yourself for having problems and wanting to be better and just be able to go and "get on with it."

My invitation is that you keep looking in the mirror.
You keep sharing your heart.
You keep listening to others share their heart so that you can (often in retrospect) learn from one another, relate to one another, and come to this relativity through your own experience and evolution.

Every day is a new opportunity to meet your brothers and sisters more deeply.

Every day is a new gift to understand the hearts of each other, to give each other a place to be:
felt,
known,
loved,
heard,
and understood.

I have always taken pride in the Growing Gratitude community.
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Of all places on the internet, although we may come from different backgrounds, socioeconomic statuses, belief systems, political parties, this remains the safest space on the internet that you can come to give and receive love.

I believe it is a place you can come be in personal, professional, mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual breakdown and yet still feel loved and still cultivate gratitude.

I love this community so much!

I enjoy being here with you all and I love knowing that we have each other to continue to go back into the world and spread love and grace no matter what breakdowns we may be in.

Keep plugging into what serves you most.
Keep supporting the evolution of humanity.
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I love you all.
Keep living a life you love!