The Shiny Thing Syndrome
Anyone reading have a dream board? I do. I have a few.
A year ago, my dream board had a Mercedes, a title I wanted to hit in my network marketing career, a man at the top a mountain, and a insanely large house. You know those dream boards. In business, we call these driving factors our "Why's."
These images were meant to motivate us in our times of fear and doubt. They were meant to remind us 'Why' we are doing what we are doing and to what end...to 'make it'.
A month ago, my dream board had an open field of flowers, the word joy, a landscape of mountains, and the phrase "Born on Purpose."
Somewhere in the middle of creating those two dream boards, I distinguished a difference in how I was 'wanting' and how I was measuring success. What I distinguished was originally, I was chasing physical "things" that would represent to others and myself that "I made it." I have come to call those, The Shiny Things. That man atop the mountain represented ultimate success and happiness. I found out about myself that I was chasing this imaginary point in life.
"I was chasing the end. I was rushing to get to a point in life that I can "relax" or call it enough and feel as though I can retire in my efforts of 'getting there.' What I distinguished is that we never get anywhere."
Life is and always will be an ever evolving process of growth and experience with milestones to celebrate along the way. There is no one grand mountain top...and even if you get to one, from there, you can see another and another.
I learned that and created my second vision board based on the life experiences that I am craving. I yanked the 'made it' feeling from the future back into my now. I envision and live out the experiences that will fill my soul and life purpose (mine so happens to be adventure) now because tomorrow never comes if we don't create it today.
My favorite analogy of this would be parenthood. Relating to it as a mountain top experience would be like having that child and saying "Sweet! Parenthood! I got there! Whew, I can relax now!" I think we can all say that birth is not parenthood. It is the VERY beginning of a journey. This event leads to a life long commitment to the experience of parenthood and allllllll that that entails. It is an ongoing experience that shape shifts with age. Same analogy could go for wedding day vs. marriage.
Essentially, we know it can show up tons of ways. There is a large difference between the living a life that will continuously generate your happiness and self worth on a daily basis and struggling through life to get to some magical point where your happiness lies. Seeing and understanding this difference will set you free from the chains of achieving and making yourself good enough to earn happiness or love.
Like life itself, success also shape shifts with age. Success is not exactly those shiny things. It is living a life that you love. It is experiencing the freedom of full expression of who You are. Success is nailing down your life purpose and then living it so boldly that your true essence and impact in the world is undeniable and unstoppable. Coolest part, we all have purpose.
Do you remember that lunch lady that you could not understand how she could possibly be so happy being a lunch lady? -Yeah, that is what I am talking about. The glorious awareness that there is no one or nothing for you to be other than yourself. It is that peacful understanding that being You is what makes life SO FULLFILING. Lastly, it is the reassurance that being you creates the life experience you are wanting.
Take some mind time to consider what experince you want to be having of life.
Need help making bold choices? We all do from time to time. I wouldn't be writing it if it weren't something I hadn't experienced myself. If you need a hand grabbing at all that is possible, let me know.
Live the life you love,
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